This blog is to help spread awareness and I am willing to share my own experiences for this cause.
I want to share my experience so that other women in the same situation know that there is hope and there is help available to anyone who has been abused emotionally physically, verbally and any other form of abuse.
It is never ok to be abused in any situation, whether you grew up with it or you find yourself in an unhealthy relationship. You should NEVER make excuses for anyone who abuses you because it doesn’t matter what there reason is. I have been there, I was abused for many years and I understand the pyschology of it.
I can sympathize with the fear and dispair regardless or not if you have children with this person. If this person abuses you and you have children and you allow them to witness these events you are allowing permanent emotional damage to affect your child. If they abuse you it is only a matter of time before they start abusing your children.
Sometimes you are so emotionally battered than it is easier to allow physical abuse to happen because it destroys your self esteem and sense of preservation. It is a vicious cycle that needs to be broken, and only you can be the one to break it. It will not be easy, but it is necessary.
These people see you as an object to use and abuse and not as a person who has feelings. By allowing them to abuse you, you are giving them the power to continue to abuse. They feed off of power and control because they most likely did not have it in their own personal lives. I am on the other side now, I am safe from my ex’s abuse.
It is still not easy, now I have to deal with the consequences of the abuse because now that I am no longer in that harmful situation I have to deal with the emotional scars left on my child and myself.
The physical scars are gone but the emotional ones will not fade so easily. I grew up thinking abuse from my spouse was ok because i grew up in a household where I witnessed alot of domestic violence.
I know now that it was not ok, and I am a better person for it. I now have the strength to protect myself and my child from any form of abuse that may come our way, and no longer will I stand for it.
I will be posting more of my thoughts and experiences in greater detail in the future. I will also post links and information about help for those victims of abuse. I know how it feels, I know how embarrassing it feels to ask for help, but I also know that you will benefit greatly from it. Don’t become a statistic, and don’t let anyone take control from you.