Ranting on Injustice of the World.
HIGHLITS on abusers profile....
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In addition to saying things that are meant to be cruel and hurtful, verbal abuse can be seen when the abuser degrades you, cursing you, running down your accomplishments. The abuser will tell you that your stupid and unable to function without them.
An abuser is not restricted to inflicting only physical pain. Most times, the psychological damage far exceeds the physical damage.I
- In many cases, the abuser will act as if nothing happened, in order to excuse his/her behavior. If they do admit their actions, it is always the fault of the victim. They justify their actions by claiming that they were provoked.
- Abusive men and women generally come off to the outsider as arrogant and overly self-confident. This is in fact a defense mechanism they use to hide their dislike for themselves.
- The abuser is often times, if at all, the last person to admit that they have a problem. Abusers commonly do not respond well to counseling because they are unable to understand their anger or confusion.
- Abusers know how and when to make their partner feel guilty. By causing guilt, the victim is more likely to stay and deal with the abuse, rather then feel “responsible” for any harm their abuser might inflict on themselves.
- Extreme fear of abandonment, exaggerated dependence on their partners, inability to tolerate being alone, distorted views of himself, of his partner, of relationships
- The abuser tends to have life ‘cycles’, where he switches from the nice man, to the hard to please, fault-finding man, to the raging man, then down to the apologetic, scared, and needy man
- As this behavior gets worse the abuser may not let the partner make personal decisions about the house, clothing, going to church, etc.
- Many abused people knew or dated their abusers for less than 6 months before they were married or living together. The abuser comes on strong and fast claiming giving you little chance to think. The abuser will pressure you to commit to the relationship in such a way that later you may feel very guilty if you want to slow down the involvement or break-off.
I SHOULD BE ASHAME.....
“The abuser said i should be ashame of exposing the abuse of my son. I want him to know the only thing i am ashame of is that i didn’t stood up for my son and myself for so many years”
I just came from the court, to suspend visitations . Our abuser, has been hitting my son during visitation. Since he has experience , he learnt how to hit without leaving visible marks. The assistant of the Judge told me: ” UNLESS YOU CAN PROVE ME HIS FATHER BEAT THE CRAP OUT OF HIM”, im not suspending visitations……. Prevention is not something we manage here!!!!!!!!!!!
Who is gonna be an advocate for my son???? if the legal system is to busy to help!!!!!
When we will understand the importance to take out of the closet the violence that is so close to home…??????
Violence is the last refuge of the incompetent”…
Isaac Asimov
Tell Schwarzenegger to reinstate funding for California domestic violence programs
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Programs will close and lives will be lost!
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(via stopfamilyviolence.org)
Domestic violence warning signs
Take Precautions
Call 911 or the police in your community if you suspect a case of domestic violence.
It’s impossible to know with certainty what goes on behind closed doors, but there are some telltale signs and symptoms of domestic violence and abuse. If you witness a number of warning signs in a friend, family member, or co-worker, you can reasonably suspect domestic abuse.
- Frequent injuries, with the excuse of “accidents”
- Frequent and sudden absences from work or school
- Frequent, harassing phone calls from the partner
- Fear of the partner, references to the partner’s anger
- Personality changes (e.g. an outgoing woman becomes withdrawn)
- Excessive fear of conflict
- Submissive behavior, lack of assertiveness
- Isolation from friends and family
- Insufficient resources to live (money, credit cards, car) Domestic Violence and Abuse: Help, Treatment, Intervention, and Prevention
- Depression, crying, low self-esteem
Reporting suspected domestic abuse is important. If you’re afraid of getting involved, remember that the report is confidential and everything possible will be done to protect your privacy. You don’t have to give your name, and your suspicions will be investigated before anyone is taken into custody. Most important, you can protect the victim from further harm by calling for help
Nobody believes that domestic violence kills and nobody believes that it is detrimental to children. This world has got to wake up. To me, if there is domestic violence, if the children see it or hear it, that to me is detrimental. Batterers should not have rights to children. as Catherine Campbell quotes : “Domestic violence is a criminal matter and needs to stay in criminal court, … Too often, judges see charges of domestic violence as a ploy to get custody and send the case to family court”……!!!!!!!!!!!
Viewer discretion is strongly advised…… THESE ARE THE FACES..of domestic violence. I am exposing my personal pictures, hopefully not to feed your voyeurism, but only with the purpose to give a real face to the abuse thousands of us and our children experiment daily around the world. The scars on our faces eventually disappear, unfortunately the scars on our hearts and minds will last for longer time.
Thank you to my followers I really appreciate it
I want you to know that regardless of whether you have been a victim of abuse, you are helping me raise awareness of this serious matter that kills so many women and children around the world than we are even aware of. We seriously undermine this issue and I really want to let all of these people know that there is help and that you should never give up.
